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不要太在意婚姻中的男女地位
如果已婚，要顺其自然学会变通。比起特定的组织家庭的方式，善于应变是夫妻和睦、收入稳定、孩子快乐的法宝。最团结的家庭是懂得变通的家庭。不要规定谁必须养家，谁必须打理家务，照看孩子，这对婚姻的伤害很大，不要被传统观念束缚。对家庭分工有想法不是件坏事，但为家庭整体幸福着想，还是应该灵活变通一些。 Don't take your ideas about gender and marriage too seriously If you do get married, keep going with the flow. Relationship satisfaction, financial security, and happy kids are more strongly related to flexibility in the face of life's challenges than any particular way of organizing families. The most functional families are ones that can bend. So partnering with someone who thinks that one partner should support their families and the other should take responsibility for the house and children is a recipe for disaster. So is being equally rigid about non-traditional divisions of labor. It's okay to have ideas about how to organize your family but your best bet for happiness is to be flexible. |
